Month: June 2018

When Laws Contradict Christianity

God said that we must follow the laws that are written to govern us. Scripture indicates that no one rules unless God explicitly gave him to power to do so. In a recent press conference, Sarah Huckabee Sanders reminded us that “it is Biblical…

How to Treat your Grieving Friends After the Death of a Child

How to treat your grieving friends after the death of their child Losing a child is an experience that is indescribable and there really is no black and white description of how a person should and will mourn. We all react to situations differently….

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: Empty Arms

My dad and one of my sister’s came in and honestly, I think at that point, he was still alive. Shortly after, I had each of my daughter’s come in to meet him, and essentially, to also say goodbye. I kept them separate so…

Battling Grief After the Loss of a Child

From my life’s experience, I believe that there is depression and that there is grief. While you certainly can have both at the same time, the two are not interchangeable. I am grieving. For many years, I struggled with depression and on many occasions,…

The struggles of dealing with a small child after the death of a sibling

As we were driving home today, my five-year-old asked, “Who is going to blow out the candles on Gabriel’s birthday?” I just looked in the rear-view mirror, faked a smile, and said, “you are.” 

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: Hello and Goodbye

The amount of emotion we felt on this day is indescribable. No parent, no person, should ever have to both welcome their child into this world and then have to hold them as they die. You are so overwhelmed with joy and with heartache…

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: The Impossible Choice

Frankly, my choice when facing a Trisomy 18 diagnosis is no one’s business but my own. But being put in a position where I was asked to make an impossible decision has opened my eyes and my heart to others and I urge you…

Dealing with a pregnancy announcement after losing your child

I am so very happy for you and your family, but please do not be offended if I need some space right now. Your child is an absolute blessing to this world and I hope to rejoice with you someday soon, but I need…

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: My Baby’s Funeral

“Here I am, Lord. Is it I, Lord?” The sounds of children’s voices echoed through the cathedral at my daughters’ school as my husband, dressed in black, carried our son Gabriel towards the altar. My two daughters and I, along with our family members…

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: The Planning

This part of our journey was so very difficult. I cannot explain the the agony I felt in knowing our sweet boy was alone, in refrigeration, just waiting. Waiting for us to figure out what to do with him and how to honor his…

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: The Amniocentesis

My husband and I called up my parents, as we always do in a crisis, and asked if they could come spend the night and take our daughters to school in the morning so we could get to the 7:30 a.m. amniocentesis. Again, it…

Our Trisomy 18 Journey: The Anatomy Ultrasound

May 8th was perhaps the hardest day of my life. After the phone call the night before, I asked my mom to come sit with me at the anatomy ultrasound. She was running behind because of traffic, and my heart was beating out of…